The marriage and blessing of two people is a holy union; a lifelong, spiritual commitment. It begins with your desire to form a lasting, life-long partnership with another in God's love, and continues throughout your lives as a process of intentional living and growing together. In this holy union, each of you as an individual, and together as a couple, gradually transform and mature in God's presence and image. The celebration and blessing of a marriage is usually held in the church, normally within the context of Holy Eucharist. At least one member of the couple being married must be a baptized Christian.

Couples contemplating Marriage or the Blessing of a Civil Union at St. James's should consult with the clergy prior to setting a date. Allow time for at least four to six sessions of counseling and instruction. A minimum of 60 days' notice must be given in all cases. For those who have been divorced or have previously dissolved a civil union, a longer time is necessary, as permission of a bishop is required.

A valid license for marriage or a civil union is available from the town clerk or city clerk in the town or city in which either member of the couple resides, and must be obtained before a wedding or civil union can take place in the State of Connecticut.

Use the Wedding Customary below to read more about weddings at St. James's. Planning is done in consultation with parish clergy. If you have any questions, contact us.


In the Episcopal tradition, it is customary for church members to be buried from the church. The Burial of the Dead (funeral service) is a series of psalms, lessons, and prayers. Funerals at St. James's often include the Holy Eucharist, especially for those for whom the Eucharist was their central act of worship.

Using the Burial Instructions below, in consultation with parish clergy, to plan such a service. If you have any questions, contact us.